Wed, 13 July 2016
Lifelong childhood friends Tom Stewart and John W. Curren discuss blame. How to take responsibility for our actions and not blame others for where we are in life. Racism and the divide in the United States is also discussed. How can we change ourselves and our own prejudice.
BLAME IS LAME askita episode 66
It will keep you personally responsible for your own actions - you are ultimately responsible for how much progress you make every day. Evaluate yourself and get rid of excuses.
helps you measure your success and progress.
It can help you silence the devil on your shoulder that whispers doubtful messages in your ear.
Find a partner who will hold you accountable
Get a coach or a mentor to help you along the way. Mentors - They do not have to be an expert. Sometimes they can be just a little further along than you. Sometimes it is just someone who you can relate to that will call you out when you start making excuses for yourself.
Make the Habit a Priority
Research what it is you want to change about yourself.
Start small – small wins lead to big changes
Write it down
Accept failure and learn from it. Fall down, stand up, repeat.
Blame- there is a lesson to be learned in all failure.
Admit responsibility that you might have helped create the problem. Where you are now is often a direct result of your own choices and how you chose to react to certain situations.
Let go of the problem and focus on how to solve it or avoid the issue next time.
I’m gonna make a change, for once in my life
It’s gonna feel real good, gonna make a difference
Gonna make it right... m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways. Michael Jacksons Man in the mirror.
"All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won't succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy." — Wayne Dyer
Fri, 1 July 2016
Episode 65. Lifelong childhood friends Tom Stewart and John Curren discuss how uncertainty keeps you from reaching your true potential.
Definition - Uncertainty is the situation which involves imperfect and/or unknown information. Is there a genuine decision to be made, or are you just postponing the inevitable? clearly identify what the decision to be made is. Investigate to the best of your ability and surrender to what ever comes your way. The Buddha taught that mental suffering arises out of ignorance. By “ignorance” he meant the misperceptions and delusions that your mind has about its own nature. The most common decisions they present are about whether to take a new job, have a baby, leave a relationship, attend a school or make a purchase. 1. re-connect to the reasons WHY you are doing what you are doing and how it will make you feel when you have achieved it. 2. Have faith and believe in yourself. Trust your intuition. 3. Accept that we all are subject to uncertainty. We can not predict the future, it is fluid and unpredictable even for the most well put together individuals. Come to grips with that fact that some things are out of your control. 4. Keep moving towards your goals. In BJJ one of our mantras is keep moving. 5. Keep perspective. One event has nothing to do with the rest of your life. It’s easy to put things together, make assumptions and imagine that the Universe is conspiring against you. 6. Don’t Take Things Personally and keep your emotions in check. 7. Take Accountability 8. Feel the fear and do it anyways. Avoiding unpredictable situations might cheat you of opportunities.